just be

As we were getting ready to go to the hospital to see the kids when they lost the baby last week, I was trying to think of something to say, you know, something all motherly and wise that would help them feel better. Suddenly, two words came into my head, a gentle whisper from the universe that quieted my racing mind. I heard “just be” and I realized that there were no words that would make them feel better. No matter how powerful we mothers like to think our mother-love is, sometimes we just can’t protect our children from life’s sorrows. Sometimes all we can do is just be and let them know that we love them.

The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers. ~Thich Nhat Hanh

6 thoughts on “just be

  1. this is so true… sometimes its just presence we need, not words.

    Thanks for reminding me of Thich Nhat Hanh; i could use his voice inside me now.

  2. I was so sad to read about your loss. You are right, “just be,” there is nothing else to do. Just be there for them. Just be a shoulder to cry on, a loving heart to turn to. Just be a sympathetic soul to listen, strong arms to support them in this time. God bless you.


  3. i know that when i miscarried, years ago now, one of my friends simply brought apple fritters and cried with me. One of the best things anybody “said.”

  4. Lilli – my deepest thoughts regarding your loss –

    I miscarried several times before I was finally able to carry Andrew full term, and then he was sick all of his life right up to the end – sometimes this life is awfully hard –

    When I got the call that he had died I immediately heard a voice in my heart that said “Be still and know that I am God.” (Psalms 46:10)

    And thats what I knew – that I can’t understand any of it but God knows all about it. And then a few weeks ago my own brush with death..its futile to try and reason these things out. All I can do is “Be Still.”

    All my love during this time – Cara

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