So we ran away from home for five days and tried to put some space between us and the grief. The hustle and bustle of traveling, the sights and sounds and the bright warm sun of another place, a place miles and worlds away from where “it” happened temporarily slowed down the cracks forming in our hearts. Of course, the only way out of grief is to go through grief and I know that is what my son and his sweet wife will be experiencing for a very long time.
Human pain does not let go of its grip at one point in time. Rather, it works its way out of our consciousness over time. There is a season of sadness. A season of anger. A season of tranquility. A season of hope. ~Robert Veninga
This, I believe, is the lesson I have to learn. To let the grief flow. I firmly believe my heart attack was caused my my ridiculous notion that “it” could be controlled in some way.
It’s good you can all support each other through this. The sunshine will do you all a world of good! Grief is so different for each person. I too lost a baby in my 5th month and I was in a scary black place for a very long time, not wanting to see friends or talk to anyone. It took several weeks for me to pull myself together to go back to work and much longer before I could discuss what happened without crying. My husband was hurting too, but it was not the same for him.. he buried himself in work and busy-ness while I curled into a ball on the couch and cried (for weeks). Time and distance helps a lot.
Doesn’t the sun, and that sense of soaking in silence, almost reach into the bone, relaxing away and out all the held in emotion?
Welcome back. 🙂
The warmth of the sun, a different environment, and a chance to relax might not get you all the way through the grief, but it’s a good start.
What a beautiful place to visit! I’m glad you all decided to take a much needed break to get away from life for a while.
I haven’t been on line for a while so I’ve only just caught up on your tragic loss. My heart goes out to you and yours. I’m glad they have you to just be with.
As my doctor said, “you don’t have to like it (grief), you just have to do it–” True but hard. i’m glad you are able to share the process with each other–that kind of support is beyond priceless.
Great plan. Looks like you landed in a beautiful spot. Enjoy.
I really hope you all managed to experience some rest if nothing else.